That’s Right Nate

Thoughts from a right thinker.

Finally, Proof Abstinence Only Education is Working

with 12 comments


As regular followers of my blog know, teen issues are very important to me. It isn’t just that I have a daughter who is about to enter her own teenage years, but also because as the owner of my own self-storage business I’m something of a role model for teens. That’s why I’ve made my opinion on sex education very clear. I was in high school in the mid-80s and college in the late 80s. This was a time when girls simply didn’t have sex until marriage. Sure some guys would tell big stories, but I can tell you from personal experience that pretty much my entire high school and college classes were made up of virgins.

Of course nowadays teenagers are lucky and they have abstinence only education to help them make the right choice. During the Bush administration, the amount of money the federal government spent on abstinence only education went from $73,000,000 to $204,000,000 per year despite 17 states opting out of the program. That seems like an awful lot of money to me. I think if you gave me 40 minutes in a room full of high school girls I could have them swear off sex until they’re 30, but I guess in the schools people expect to be overpaid.

The proof that I mentioned in the headline involves the virginity pledge that is the ultimate goal of many abstinence only programs. This is a pledge to remain a virgin until death or marriage. My daughter has taken this pledge whether she realizes it or not. Anyway, she’s pretty overweight at 5’7″ and 125 pounds so I don’t think it’ll be an issue. While a recent study by Harvard researcher Janet Rosenbaum found that students who took the virginity pledge were just as likely to have sex as those who didn’t and far less likely to use protection, the study found that they had 0.1 percent less sexual partners. It is clear that at least as far as monogamy goes, the lessons are getting through. Next, we need to move on and attack that whole having sex thing.

It’s true that at times in my youth I wish that I had grown up in a more sexually liberated time, but the 80s and 90s were a much safer time to grow up and I don’t know that I’d ever trade that for the diseases and risk of pregnancy they have today. It’s definitely enough to make me glad that my daughter isn’t pretty.


Written by thatsrightnate

July 7, 2009 at 6:26 pm

12 Responses

Subscribe to comments with RSS.

  1. Nate, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but fat girls have sex too. I speak from experience! I wouldn’t count on Emily being sin-free just because of some extra pounds.
    Also, girls in the 80s did have sex. Ok, I’m from Brazil, so maybe the 80s were much more permissive here. But I have to tell you – abstinence education is a big joke here. I’m glad you take it seriously in the US. By the way, have you read Tom Perrotta’s The Abstinence Teacher? It’s great, and it’s going to be made into a movie by the same couple who directed Little Miss Sunshine.


    July 8, 2009 at 7:18 am

  2. I’m sure that Brazil was more permissive in the 80s. Isn’t that when you guys were all doing that Lambada: The Forbidden Dance thing. I don’t read books, but if it is a movie, I will try and see it.


    July 8, 2009 at 11:13 am

  3. When my oldest daughter was a high school senior, she told me, a propos of I forget what (I do remember that I was giving her a ride to school, as I had sworn a hundred times I would abstain from doing ever again, because she had missed the bus *again*) “Dad, I just want to let you know that I’ve decided to stay a virgin until I’m thirty.”

    I replied “That’s great, dear. Talk to me when you’re 25.”

    Then she went to college.

    When she was 25 or so, she told me that one of her great heroes was Jenna Jammison, the porn star.

    When she was 27, she converted to Catholicism.

    So you see? When you’re a dad concerned about the best advice to give your daughters in a complicated world, it’s all obvious and straightforward.


    July 8, 2009 at 6:34 pm

  4. Nate, you haven’t addressed the part where I mention fat girls having sex. I understand this is a touchy subject for you, but you can’t just close your eyes to the fact that fat girls have more sex than thin girls. It’s all about the appetite, you see. Well, I don’t know a whole lot about thin girls. I think we should ask the former Miss Ohio about this.


    July 8, 2009 at 6:59 pm

  5. Thanks John, I think I was pretty straight forward. I just told her nice girls don’t. I’m telling you, it won’t happen Lola.


    July 8, 2009 at 9:01 pm

  6. I was on the pagenat circuit for 22 years, until I aged out at 24. In all that time, I never met a girl who wasn’t a virgin. Beautiful women do not have to hhave sex. As soon as I land a man, please Jeasus, I am going back to competing. In the Mrs. America and Mrs. USA circuits, I am absolutely certain that I will find a high number of goodly virgin women.


    July 9, 2009 at 7:09 am

  7. It’s great that you have a career plan, Cecily.
    How do you like the film Little Miss Sunshine?
    You know what, Nate? You should have some guest posts around here. I’d love to hear the former Miss Ohio talk about her experiences.
    Cecily, your line about beautiful women not needing to have sex reminded me of that t-shirt that another reader here wanted to wear: “I wasn’t hot enough to keep boys waiting”. How true! It must be really exciting to have boys just gawking at you, and not wanting to do anything. I mean, I wouldn’t know.


    July 9, 2009 at 2:34 pm

  8. It must be a curse Lola to be ugly. I believe that a woman is only as beautiful on the outside as she is beautiful on the inside. If you save yourself for Jesus, Jesus saves your face. Look at Julie Andrews or Ingrid Bergman. Have you ever seen an ugly nun? It’s the same thing with pageant girls. We are the chosen few who are fair of face and figure and can use that power to bring men to their knees. From there, it’s only one step until they are crying out “Oh God!”


    July 9, 2009 at 4:53 pm

  9. I have to say you seem to mis-interpret statistics. the students in the rosenbaum report still ended up with the same amount of partners over their lifetime as non-pledgers. maybe you shouldn’t assume that your daughter is going so follow a virginity pledge. after all i signed one in my church with my mother and father and i’m gonna scare you- i’ve been with numerous men since i lost my virginity and even a few women. you should try to keep an open mind with your daughter, don’t smother her, and teach her the truth. teach her about contreceptives because even though you don’t want her having sex you really don’t want to explain to the rest of the congregation why she gets pregnant or gets an std. fair warning


    October 10, 2009 at 12:33 am

  10. Thanks for replying Shay, but I am sure that I interpreted those stats the right way. I am assuming that you are a reasonably attractive woman and somewhat weak willed. Fortunately for me, my daughter is neither of those things. I’m not saying that no guy would want to have sex with her–only that she’d really have to seek them out and probably have to get them drunk and seduce them as well. I think I can at least prevent that.


    October 10, 2009 at 8:38 am

  11. I’m sorry, but am I the only one on here who is angry about the way you are treating your poor daughter? At 5’7″ and 125lb, she is far from being overweight! She is only one point away (on the BMI scale) from being considered underweight! Not to mention the fact that you are openly and very publicly calling your daughter unattractive! The picture you posted shows a young girl who is quite pretty. I don’t know where you are taking your own standards of beauty from, but have you stopped to consider how your careless comments are going to affect your daughters sense of self-worth and self-esteem? As her father it is your job to be protecting your daughter from such baseless and unnecessary opinions! Regardless of your personal opinion, you should be ashamed of yourself for putting it out there for all to see, and I certainly hope that your daughter is not among them.


    January 20, 2010 at 2:03 pm

  12. I’m proud to say she’s down to 120. I’ve been filling my readers in on details of my daughter’s struggles since this blog started. I love my daughter very much, but sometimes love means asking, “Are you really going to eat all that?”


    January 20, 2010 at 3:53 pm

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: